Over the past three years, as I have gone through loss and have witnessed others experience it as well, I learned that you should never compare one’s hurt to another’s. We all grieve in diverse ways as our hearts are mended differently.
If you are on social media frequently you will most likely notice families and loved ones enjoying each day and this season. Taking in activities and purchasing gifts for others. Everyone seems joy-filled. But what about when this season is a reminder of loss and personal pain?
We tend to forget that Christmas may be a time of heartache for some. It is easy to get wrapped up in our own little lives and not make space for those that are grieving or in a state of sadness. There are those that are longing to be with a loved one that passed away to soon. A husband, a child, a mother or a dear friend may be missing. Although it may have been years, holidays amplify the loss. Take time to look around and notice who it is you can come alongside.
My house is full this year. This past March we welcomed our dear sweet, Margaret. However, the longing for my other children persist. The agony of their departure still holds and it tends to stab at me as we prepare to hang decorations on our tree or drink tea around our table. I miss them. These babies that I never got to meet leave such an ache and longing in my soul some seasons.
To those that are hurting this season, I am so very sorry. I wish death and pain was not part of this life. That we got to experience hearty and fulfilled lives with the ones we love each day and each season as it passes. I pray that somehow in someway you are able to experience just a glimpse of love and most of all hope this Christmas. Even if just for a moment.
*first published on December 14th, 2016. Revised December 3rd, 2017